My excercises.

Hello there.

I wanted to write about my exercises because my English tutor told me that.

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To start with , I can tell you that my weight is 95 ish kg and I`m 183 cm ,hence I`m at the middle of being fatty and massive,which you may have think that there is no difference , but trust me , there is.

I was always wondering , why people exhausting themselves by having a diet ,working hard in the gym ,bring the jogging in your life and make that as a habit. In my country(Latvia) people are not doing such a thing- they eat mostly healthy(fatty but homemade,going to McDonald but once per month) and the majority of population don`t go to the gym regularly,unless you are preparing  for a summer season , you know what I mean?! But ,in fact,[in my country] when you go out somewhere you won`t notice fat people,yes , maybe with some extra-pounds but not fatty or so ,and the reason why most of them not fatty not because we haven`t have plenty of fast-food restaurants.I think that lack of money , the hard work, the stressful situation in the country when you can`t afford living your life without having a job(our benefit system is truly miserable , thanks God) – that all force us to  socialize(you should have friends who you can sometimes rely on , friends also can give you an advice or they can know someone who knows(like anthill) and friends also can push you out from your boredom .. ) . We think that if you need to go out – you need to look nice as well,it sounds so shopworn , I know ,but there is a trick. Most of the people in my country have a lots of taboos like – you can`t go out and show yourself if you are fat(like really fat),so you must be sitting in your closet and  don`t you dare even look out otherwise you may have be bullied.That fear can force us to take care of ourselves.Maybe it`s very stupid but this method is very meaningful nonetheless.

On the other hand ,here in the UK ,the majority of the people have a taboo – you can`t judge others by their look(it calls bulling or abuse). We have a very powerful tool for not to work- it calls the benefit system. You can go out wearing anything you want and be not ashamed by your ,so to speak,friends. That how the real freedom taste.But it`s lusciously sugary for me,thank you very much.

Well..my exercises.. what do I do to improve my health and to keep my mind sharp ? Actually , I do mostly of the second part – I think a lot,talk a lot,care a lot. But I also go to the gym and working hard.In fact,I spend in the gym about 1-1.5h all together(exercises,shower,steam room/water pool ,+the time to the gym(20 min) and back to home).  But,to be completely honest with you , I spend lots of the time in front of computer,yes yes, I have silly excuses like I`m watching documentaries,talking to my friends via Whatsapp(they finally made it work through PC,yay) ,watching anime,thrillers.reading a lot etc.. but ,lets face it,I still spend a lot of the time in front of PC,which is completely unhealthy.

Yesterday , I downloaded the documentary about exercises ( http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b01cywtq ) and I was shocked. Completely shocked. You know..I always was thinking that the information can be dangerous and I need to “consume” the information carefully . And now..this video completely opened my eyes and I`ll try to do my best and will take care of my body.

Watch this :

That is incredible.

You know.. as I mentioned before , I haven`t get any clues about why all the people jogging or spending lots of their time in the gym.But now, I think , I can realised the answer – people just wants to be healthy . Have a healthy family, have a healthy kids , it`s like a rock been thrown down and accidentally on purpose was targeted to my head.

I made my mind up to put much more efforts into my health. I`ll try to go for a walk .I will cost me a time but I hope it also can acquire me the time..eventually.

Welp .

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Back in to 1930s.

Good day everyone . Why today is a good day ? It is very good question .

Today I want to tell you a story, a simple story about the first day on my new job.

Yesterday ,I went to the hotel where I will be working as a night porter but because I had lack of experience (bar-serving the drinks,customer service etc.) I was asked to come and get some practice.

I am tempted to say .. that evening was fantastic.

To start with , I went in a hotel ,it was full of hustle and bustle ,it was all about the preparation on the evening` event .

I went to the bar with my supervisor(James),got to know where is the stuff(drinks,glasses,prices etc.) and then.. I saw one gentlemen in a military form , I asked James – is he real militarists or? He answered me “No,he`s not,today we have an event where all are supposed to be dressed-up as if they were back in 1930s” .

Being nerd , I was watching a few similar events , for instance comic-con in London . But I never had been in such old-fashion event like yesterday I was in.Purely because I am not very familiar with that period of time .

2All the ladies were in a old-fashion/military dresses ,they wore interesting dresses and old-fashion tights (very old fashioned) ,some of them wore a hat.I saw two Afro-American gentlemen ,one of them was in a black suit (like back in 1930 – very rich businessman) ,and other wore trousers with pair of braces and in baker boy cap (like simple worker) .There were the singers(two ladies) who was wearing a military costume with labels and insignias  etc.Another woman had a fox(dead version of it) as a part of her dress All the music was from the 1930s.

There also was a group of middle-age people(50-60+) who were dancing as it supposed to be in the 1930s.James told me that those guys are “Our old customers ,they have an event in October when they reserve the whole hotel for 4 days and  enjoy that time immensely.”

After all  , I enjoyed all that time what I spent there, I really did. You know..when you make the similar event,all you want to achieve is ..that everyone should experiencing the same emotions and feelings if they would be in the 1930s.I must admit,in that time even my father was a child and I haven`t got any knowledge about all that time.. but I have a confession to make – somehow , completely out of the blue , I was a part of that , I felt that all those people had had something in common , they were succeeded in bringing such an old[past] atmosphere ..

I also was thinking about the time.Nowadays the technology was captured the majority of the people , when if you haven`t got the account in Facebook – it means that you are the wild man and you need to go back into your cave. The technology is rushing somewhere..every second counts. But i think that the past is like the book which is full of recondite information.All the information is old but it`s valuable nonetheless.

When I went to home completely exhausted I went to bed straight away but the music was still playing , the dancing couples were still flashing into my mind .  Now , after 7 hours of sleep , I don`t feel even a half of these feelings or emotions but you know what? Something from that day was entrenched inside of me .. something very old but still important.

My diet.

Today, I want to talk about the entrenched opinion that  the people should have any kind of diet.From my humble opinion , I possessively want to point out that this statement is mistaken.To start with , I want to urge you that there is no evidences which could prove the link between good diet and well-being.However,at the same token , we might highlight the profound chanelet  between well-being and being on any kind of diet. But to specialize that kind of connection , we must have specify what is that – being on a diet.
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Let`s clarify that – from my perspective of the world , the first meaning of the diet is , obviously , healthy eating . Let`s talk a bit about that . I think that healthy eating contains all the vitamins and minerals which our organism requires,for instance , to strengthen our immune system , we should provide it with significant amount of  Vitamin C and there is no room for error , unless you are “clever” boy which wants to have a day-off from school and got a cough on a purpose. Additionally , we should be the provider of : Vitamin A because it is a key for good vision, a healthy immune system, and cell growth; Vitamin B is a part of a class of water-soluble vitamins that play important roles in cell metabolism ; and so on.

Let`s do not being fastidious by not mentioning about the oils , for instance , I do have a pills with Omega-3 to keep my mind sharp and to memorize as much information as I can .

I know that we cannot follow all these rules – what and how much of the vitamins and minerals should we use,it is unfathomably excruciating process ,when you ,lets call a spade a spade, find it ad nauseum and will unduly abhor that.

But I have a very serendipitous cure for those slothful people , who wants have just a simple life without reckoning anything – and the name of this seldom cure is a [magic] pills which can contain any source of vitamins or minerals which you may think your organism  will be needed.

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The next step of the good diet could be the exercises. To be completely honest with you , sometimes I skip my “work” in a gym ,I`m just a weak human being,or yes,another lazy person as [maybe] you, but nonetheless , I do my best to keep myself fit by doing some exercises at home.

I know you all know about the importance to keep yourself fit , but to do so you need to work assiduously hard . Surprisingly enough , we got the internet and lots of clips on Youtube ,which dedicated on “how to spend less time on doing exercises “,God bless those people who were made these clips.

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A diet.. a Diet.. I think when we have a taste of this word into our mouth we automatically starting to think about the weight , am I right? But lets not going deep into bigotry but keep a good spirit – albeit the fact that my weight is nearly 100 kg , I feel excellent myself and I have no any obsessed ideas about losing weight. Of course , I do make sort of sacrifices every day like refuse to myself[my stomach] to pusillanimously gorge myself with any sort of fast food ,truly speaking, I find it extremely heinous and ghastly. However,I don`t want to show oneself as a hypocrite – sometimes I do consume sort of junk food but it`s when my MIND required it as a mandatory of its surviving . But it is the only exception when I give up the slack.

Well,now you can have a rest , because this indoctrination is about to end. It`s the time to roll up your sleeves and get to work, shall we?

Healthy Living

This speech is all about healthy living ,about the subject what is given by exam committee ,hence – it is our exam topic.

This is the final part of my presentation and it had been proofread by my former teacher P.

Today I’m going to talk about healthy living.

From the time when the date changed from “December 2014” to “January 2015”,all magazines and TV programs started bombarding us with statements like “It’s the time to change your bad habits ” or “The best New Year Resolution 2015” where people here and there are trying to force us to change ourselves (presumably for better). Believe me or not, this subject is  perennial for discussion, because we can all outline pros and cons of leading a healthy lifestyle.

When you are thinking about “living healthy”, what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Actually, there are lots of options to answer this question.

Let’s start with the basics.

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To start with, modern life requests from us to be here and there, to be very mobile and flexible. Hence a lot of our time is spent on sitting or driving and we have no time to do any exercises of any time. We come home and we are completely exhausted after work. It’s believed that even standing up can help us to burn more calories than sitting as it tones and exercises our muscles.I’d therefore recommend you to stand up when you’re making a phone call or downloading something on your computer.I think it’s more important for your body’s memory because it remembers to be more active. This memory will then push you to do activities of any sort,like planning your day or improving your social skills instead of sitting down silently, while you are using public rapid transit system .

Healthily eating.

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It is been stated that “eating healthy is crucial to maintain good health”. Sounds simply,right? But as we all know,it isn’t so simple as it seems. What do you think about eating healthily? Is it to eat only healthy food and count your daily calorie intake? Is it to eat home-made food only, and trying to avoid any unhealthy or junk food?

Since the time, when I came in the UK for the first time, I have heard that there are people who are trying to avoid eating meat, but I never have seen them. Later on,when I had been here and there and met lots of people, few of them were vegetarians. I met one of them in London where I used to attend the Language Exchange Group. Surprisingly enough, this vegetarian was a man. When I realized who he was, I started with a double brush ,because I couldn’t understand – why people do this- become vegetarians. Later on I got to know other vegetarian person, who became a close friend of mine. We had a long, long discussion about the reasons why she is doing that, but both of us haven’t got any problems/arguments against each other just because we respect each other and it does’t matter that I am a meat-eater and she is a vegetarian. Let’s get back on track, shall we?! As I know and believe, it doesn’t really matter what you eat – you can eat what you really want to, even junk-food ,it depends how frequently are you do it. But the most important part of living healthy and eating healthy is to feel the happiness while you are eating something.

Let’s do not underestimate our feelings during that moment, while we are eating. Can you find the importance of it? Let’s get closer to that by giving you a few examples.

When the food is home-made, it smells and tastes better ,isn’t it ? Even if you use the same contents or ingredients – it is different . But why it is that? I believe that it is because of the knowledge, our brains believe that that particular food is much tastier and much better than other, even if it contains more fat,it doesn’t matter. When you go to a pizza restaurant and you can watch how they are making the pizza you ordered, the taste of it is much better than if you wouldn’t be watching, isn’t it?

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From my perspective of the world, we are able to eat absolutely anything IF we are happy. I believe that if you are not hungry but you want any kind of junk-food ,when you see it and you want it like here and now, and when you get it – it makes you a happy person and I believe that it won’t hurt you much. From another point of view, we can face the problem when any person with “a few extra pounds” come into ,let’s say , McDonald and orders something what he/she wants. That person, knowing that he/she already has some extra pounds ,eating that meal without the feeling of happiness. Maybe she/he even feels hate against her/himself ,that kind of hate is raising the stress level into our bodies and how our organism reacting on this stress? Yes,in stress situation the organism is trying to put any spare calories into a fat to use it later while the stress continues . So this particular individual, by coming and getting only meal in fast-food restaurant, could get many more extra pounds just because of negative thinking. Later on, she/he will feel more miserable and this will have a crucial effect on his body-type.

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I can show you another point of it, most of people are not educated enough. They drink cold drinks with warm meals ,when the scientists say : “People should take-to-drink meal only with warm drinks because cold drink force the food to leave a stomach too quickly , without having had time to be digested completely. And even if you eat much, your stomach after a short time interval again will demand food. Much more terribly, that badly digested food stays in intestines can lead to processes of fermentation and rotting that will harm to your body. Having fatty foods with cold drinks is especially harmful for you- it is a direct way to a pancreatitis.

Being Happy

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The next important part of living healthy is being happy, because an unhappy person can’t have a healthy life-style even if he is doing all the other “parts” of it. What is the meaning of being happy? It is to have a good friends, to surround yourself with positive people , the part of being happy should contain the positive thinking as well, because if you think mostly negatively, you are unconsciously building up an insurmountable psychological barrier of being unhappy and this barrier makes your days be dull and gloomy even if others tells you that there is sun somewhere.

Positive thinking .

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I believe that positive thinking is the key of healthy living. No matter what storms will be on your way, regardless of any issues or troubles – you will find the light at the end of a tunnel and, most importantly, people around you will stick to you just because they can charge themselves with positive energy simply by looking at you. And the good fact about positive thinking is that it is almost perennial. Of course, it is not a piece of cake, you need to put in effort and be unshakably constant with that.

Exercise more

I must admit, that the fitness or physical exercises also affects your life, mostly positively. We can say ,without any doubts,that the exercises by themselves only can make you feel stronger and better and in the result – much healthier ! But the most important part of going to the gym or doing exercises at home is that you force yourself to do something with your life. From my own experience, I’d say that going to gym is very important to me because It brings some changes into my life,I push myself to go out despite of the bad weather or bad mood, I try to organize myself, stick to the plan and be constant with that. Of course, it helps me to improve my social skills as well.

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In conclusion, I would like to advice you to be wise and think what you really want to do with your life, not for fashion or for other people. I strongly believe that no one can tell you how to live your live, hence only your own opinion matters the most.

A bit about the friendship.

It`s been said that :

Making friends can be hard because of one’s lack of social skills, because our society is generally making us more isolated, because of our modern busy lifestyles, or because we no longer have a context for meeting people like we did in college or high school. There is no single cause that makes this crucial skill hard for us—it’s actually a group of causes.

I completely agree with it .Nowadays people don`t really talk to each other – is it a fault of new technologies which pushed us away from each other , notwithstanding that it should be working totally otherwise. The new technology like mobile phones with bunch of chat/meeting applications were supposed to decrease the distance between people ,but they made it much longer . I have watched the T.V. series “Californication” where David Duchovny (“X-files” `s male-star) said about ew technology :

In these latter days one fact annoy me – that all people become more dumber and dumber. I want to tell that we have all these surprising technologies, and as a result- computers have turned in expensive “w*nking machines” , the Internet should give us freedom, make us more
democratic, and the only thing that it has given to us is a nominee of the doctor the Dyne and round-the-clock access to a children’s porno. People, they anymore do not write, they conduct blogs, they do not talk anymore, they type the text, neither punctuations, nor grammar and so on. Such sensation that one small group of morons communicates with another group of morons on any kind of pro-language which is more likely similar to speech of cave people, instead of on Shakespeare’s high language.”

And , to be honest, I completely agree with him . People don`t go anywhere to have a real laugh , they are using abbreviations such as “LOL , rofl or lmao” or they can just put the smile picture and that`s all. People forgot how to use their face muscles when they smile , they are using images for that. The new technologies gave us the illusion that we are close enough , we are “in touch” and we always are forgetting about real friends. I remember days when there were no phones and if you wanted to know are your friend at home or not – there was an only way how to find out – by knocking on his door or pushing on the doorbell. And if there is no-one there – you just turn around and go back to home or whatever. I think they were happy days ,when children had no phones and nothing to do at home , they played more with their friends ,real friends (not with acquaintances) and there were much easier ways to make new friends than nowadays.

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A survey by Relate rather shockingly suggests that as many as 10% of people in the UK don’t have a single friend to turn to. That translates into nearly 5 million adults who are, in effect, friendless.

Even factoring in that many of these unfortunates may be elderly people whose friends have died, or inadequates who lack functional social skills, that is still a significant number of ordinary people who just don’t know how to maintain good friendships”

What do you think about that ? Is it easy for you to make new friends ? I always wonder why most of English people calling each other as a friend – in my country most of the time we are using other word “acquaintance” and when we are talking about [real,good ones,close] friends [with whom we spent lots of time together and experienced good or bad times] then we are letting other people know , that we are good , close friends. But here and there I keep hearing “ I went with this friend there and we saw this friend blah blah blah” and I wonder – do they really have so much friends? It`s such a incongruity for me.

“With friends, if you annoy them too much, they can just drop you. Within this simple fact lies one of the first principles of friendship – tread carefully. Friends are precious, even irreplaceable, but they are also fragile.

Treading carefully is easier said than done. Part of a good friendship is honesty, and sooner or later one is forced to choose between being amenable and giving a friend the honesty you think the relationship merits. But honesty is always a risky strategy, whether it’s asking “Do you like my new dress/suit?” or “Do you like my new girlfriend/boyfriend?” Sometimes you are forced to find out what your friendship rests on, and sometimes the foundations prove insubstantial.”

Very truly stated . When I am talking to people , I always trying to be myself . Sometimes ,surprisingly enough , people found me as a rude person , who ,being mostly honest and straight person ,can make others feel awkward or uncomfortable ,hence it isn`t piece of pie. You also needs to be diplomatically correct with people whether will they be your ,so to speak , friends or will be one of the “people come , people go” `s cases . My receipt is simple , I really don`t want to be show people how nice I am ,because there are the days when I could not be nice to them. Do we really need to wear a double-faces ? I mean ,by pretending be someone else with other people just because it is polite and nice . Sometimes I just don`t get it.. why shall we spend out time(which you can`t get back)and talk to people in a good language when we have no ideas will this particular person your friend or not. Don`t get me wrong – we should be nice to people ,when we want it or they deserve it.. or just by default . But shall we spend your time by talking to someone who isn`t nice to you ? My answer is no. I have no interest in pleasing every person I meet just because I am aware that not all people get along, and that’s just how life works. Most of the time I am trying to focus on the quality of my relationships, instead of the quantity of them because you really can`t have LOTS of friends for whole your life, real ones .Maybe 5 ? 10 Max.

To finish with this preach ,I will use one of the quotes :

Is there a secret to long friendships? Simply this – an absence of pride. Too many falter on stubbornness or the determination to hold on to offense. Successful ones rely on humility and the recognition of human fallibility. These are not merely useful attributes. They are the heart and soul of friendship.”

Thank you for listening.

Few concerns.

It is really strange filling when you start to realizing that now is a New Year(2015). Few days ago, we all were a bit over-excited about this special event and now.. now we are mostly the same or you think differently?
First of all , I would like to wish all of you a Happy New Year and I hope you will find your path down this road, will it be bad or good – well , it will be nice experience either way ,am I right?
I`d share with you about some of my thoughts if you don`t mind to listen. Firstly ,I had been joined to chatroom and it was/is very nice experience for me as a person and for my English. Albeit the fact that a decent conversation is a very rare case out there , I still enjoying it . Describing this chat ,well ,I might say that this chat is full of negative people who are sitting down there for only reason – to make some fun by laughing at something or arguing with anyone.. or you can do this all and pack of other things ,but nevertheless, there were some decent people whom I was lucky to meet.
And what I was doing there ? Frankly speaking , usually I am speaking with some other person who I was glad to know but she went to her original country and I didn`t want to disturb her rest while she will be there with family and friends ,which she could meet [face to face] only being there on holidays. So we were a bit distant for that period of time. But the strange thing is..that if you really want to be friends with somebody and you “sign in all terms and conditions” (like we will be friends only , you are not allowed to do this and that etc.) and If you after that haven`t the chance to build up a strong connections with that person(who`s supposed to be your friends in near future)..then you are “screwed up”. The odd thing is that all the people really wants to make friends .. but when they are here with you – you take it for granted and later , when this connection disappearing time after time, then they started to realize that something is completely wrong, but ,as Russians used to say, “this train is already gone”. It is out of my understanding , why people are so.. stupid(?!) or better to say – blind? Someone smart man said ,I really can`t remember all the saying but meaning was – “ people are searching for love and friends whatever they can..except around themselves” .
It was only the second day of the new Year but I already tired of it ,despite the fact , that I am very positive person and cheerful enough for handle all “bad days”. I just can`t understand .. I was talking via chat with lots of [presumably] beautiful women who is beautiful and nice from ,so to say, both sides, but weirdly enough they have a lack of happiness. Ghastly enough realise that fact and then I was thinking –is it a jeer of the fate – because most of unpretty women are single and are desperately looking for [any] man and ,at the meantime , lots of really nice and good-looking women are doing the same. We are lost here , aren`t we?
I got to know one woman who was my teacher , despite the fact that she is really good looking and have some “abroad beauty” ,as being English teacher ,she really struggle to find the proper man. She is beautiful , smart , funny , witty , intelligent , good educated piece of something what most of the men is dreaming about but.. she is struggling to find the proper one -it is ridiculous, really really “franking” unbelievable.
Other example – once upon the time I was adding the advertisement on Gumtree where I was trying to find anyone who could help me with my English. One female has pop up and we were talking a lot. She was very serious lady and her conditions were simple – no flirty chat, no silly jokes, no relationships – I could agree only on the last part but it`s not the point. The point is that when I asked her about her relationships ,which as I though had been take the place ,she answered that she has no boy- or girl-friend . I was really surprised – why is that? We all know that at some point we need the person who will be with you , we want/need to be a couple .. but she said that she never wanted to be with neither boy or girl . I had never been thinking that this kind of people exist [give me some credit] but here, in England , I started get to know lots of things what haven`t happened with any of my friends/acquaintances . I was really curious about this stupid fact, which later on I found the name of – asexual or nonsexual person .I haven`t been thinking that it is even possible – but ,I guess , people are can be really strange and very odd nowadays .Anyway , when I was asking about the feelings and stuff like that (according of my thinking, most of women are emotional beings, don’t get me wrong) and she said that she has the dog. THE DOG?! I really do like that fact that I`m having a great time here, in England.. but sometimes people in here can literally blow my mind with how they are thinking/acting.
I wish I could find someone who could cope with impoliteness and honest talk .

Circle of life / Position of strength. (unfinished)

Man and Woman.

Childhood.

From my humble opinion , at the age 2 or 3 there is no difference in gender, excepting toys ,clothes ,plays/games. Later on, when the child is aged enough to go to kindergarten , the differences between them is started to show themselves, for instance , girls and boys started to noticing the difference in behaviour – some boys become as teaser ,bullying other kids left and right and it should be alarmingly because we all are living in polite and calm society and such behavior is not acceptable. On the other hand , from the very beginning man`s essence should show itself. And how It will show itself is in parent`s hands.

Talking about children in England there is no word as “banned” or “disallow” because most of the parents wants to have a nice, smart and beautiful children, hence they shouldn`t having any knowledge of limit or boundaries. You[minding about parents) needs to be very sneaky and cheeky enough to avoid the difficult situations like forbid doing something ,going something because you have no rights(in this country) for punishing them-what will you do – will you ground them?! The bottom line is – you need to be very flexible taking care of your own child.

Few months ago I saw the family when father was walking with his child which was on the lead! Could you imagine how flabbergasted I was?! How ridiculously stupid it is ? Yes, it was nice ,polite, innocent lead, but still lead, don`t you think? How obnoxious and unskilful turkey you should be to have only this opportunity to walk out your child?! It is crazy, to be honest, It is craziness.

On the other side of the Earth(talking about Russian culture),all parents have the rights to punish their own child. The methods could be very strict – it starts with simple talk/sermons and go till physical punishment using leather belts(ouch ,I`m having lots memories about this).All those activities could be avoided by simple way – all children had been taught by simple idiom – we all are knowing what is good(right) and what is bad(wrong). Summary,all children is free to choose what they should do ,all of them should have their common sense and in case if they were done something bad or unacceptable, they were doing this on purpose , hence this deed could be either praised or punished. Reminiscing my childhood ,I could not support any decisions what has been made by my father, but since becoming older and older I started to realize the meaning of those punishment and the strong (but positive) impact what had been made by those punishments .Could you take a while and try to realize the positive factor from all of it?

Education.

There is saying in English “the roots of education are bitter, but the fruit is sweet” which I completely agree with. And all further education steps is lying on the parent`s shoulders and on them only. Presumably ,it is more financial question rather than way of the choice, for example , to you’re your child to Oxford School for boys you need around £ 18 000 per year, hereof if you were born in wealthy family then , with a high probability ,you will have the better education which means – better future careers ,better(well-known) friends and, the most important ,you will grow up as very intelligent person .Lets say that you are not from the rich family ,which future is waiting for you? Well ,being grown up in “all-allowed” style you may be wanted to try all-you-can-get from life including lies , drugs, alcohol ,sex, alarmingly bad language, briefly all the worse what the parents wants for their children.

Talking about my own experience being in school ,i`d say that it was awesome part of my life .All the teachers were strictly kind(can you imagine the mixture of it?!),they punished(verbally, in this country it calls verbal abuse) you when we have done unforgivable mistake and they were praised you when you were showed then the sign of wisdom. Repeatedly ,who will you become is your choice and your only , so it is only up to you .My favorite subjects were the Maths(Algebra+ Geometry ),Physics(in higher classes),Chemistry – all for logical thinking person. And for the record ,I was very good and intelligent pupil and my Maths teacher always was proud of me and she wanted to show this to my sister(who has studied in the same school but in higher class)and she was telling lots of positive things about me in front of all sister`s group. I won`t lie to you by hiding the shadow side of this positiveness – when I went to another school ,cause all my family was moved to another region , I was joined to other class – 9 “D” (this”D” letter meant that it is the worse class of the 9th which was supremely surprising for me) and it was a bit scary because I will be moved from my accustomed area to something unbelievably horrible and frightening.I will tell you about the 1st of September of that year .After the celebration ,I went to my classroom and I saw three guys who were about 2-3 years older than me(later I figured out that they managed to sit in jail for a while),they were undoubtedly full of energy and were excited because of “new meat” .One of this pack has came to me and told me – let`s go out and get some fun by fighting each versus other? I wasn`t suicidal man who has no sign of self-preservation and I refused this kind offer, obviously . He shrugged and went to another new guy for the same reason .This newbie ,probably, was overconfident about himself and he agreed to stand against this massive street guy. After the lesson(having the break-time) all the class went out looking for blood .As you may understand , the newbie was lost tremendously and at the time when he realized it – he said “enough”. Other guy(bad one) said he doesn`t want to stop. After this answer I went to classroom to carry on with studying.When the bad pack came in I haven`t spotted the newbie around there. That day was my first day in the 9 “D” class and it was also the last day when I saw this newbie at school. It was indeedy horrible story .

Army.

In my country was an obligation to serve your country in that particular way. Many young men, starting from 16-24 were supposed to serve their own country all around the country. And ,as I mentioned before, it wasn’t the choice for them ,it was an obligation which could be have some criminal consequences if you were tried to avoid serving there. The only chance how you could legally avoid “one year of suffer” – you should be studying somewhere.

I had been in Army(Latvian) and I must tell you that it`s really silly things to afraid of .This year gave me a lot ,starting with physical endurance and strength and I could finish with mental stamina .I could undoubtedly tell you that that particular time was full of ruthless ,verbal abuse, very tough physical trainings and ,of course, fun. At the meantime ,there were no any sign of physical violence. You were simply should been comply your superior`s orders ,should be perfectly doing your duties and don`t mess around. However ,there were tour of duty, for instance – you should be cleaning all “the house”-the building was made to locate and facilitate the normal living attributes for 90-120 men. When I am saying “cleaning” ,by that I meant – ensure that all surfaces are clean including mirrors, windows, tables, surfaces in the toilets ,all the ground should been cleaned, all the walls , steps etc. You were on this tour of duty for 24 hours and you were not allowed to leave your position unless your superior have been told you do so.

It was lots of the moral pressure on you. You were not been allowed to communicate with anyone through the mobile phone while you weren`t had had the break-time (after 6p.m.).There were lots of regularities which you should been followed or you will be punished by going to the tour of duties out of turn. Once per month you had an opportunity to get home for two days and in case if you were mistaken somewhere or unsuccessful at any point of the lessons or anywhere ,you lost your chance to get home. I haven`t mentioned before , but I must – while you have been on such territory , you shouldn`t been allowed to go somewhere freely ,should not been allowed to leave this place until you have an approval to do so .You were partly freely person ,when you have the free time ,you can do whatever you want to- go to the gym ,play chess or talk to your relatives by face-to-face (if you were allowed to do so) or by phone .But there was the place for unfortunate mishap -I knew one guy who could not resist anymore and couldn`t cope with any pressure ,therefore he had been broken [from inside] and irrevocably was sent home .

After successfully finishing this period of time , I was proud of myself and I could see the difference between previous myself and new-born myself. The Army gave me lots knowledge how to be manly,how to behaving maturely and it also gave me lots of benefits to get better job.

Contemplating some articles, like “Women could get combat roles in British army by 2016. Defence secretary says he hopes ban on women serving in frontline infantry roles will be lifted ‘in next year or so’”

I really cannot understand any significance of all this. Why women shouldn`t be banned from serving in the Army, mind you, there is no place for any point of sex-discrimination. All what I wanted to say – the army is not the right place for the beauty of mankind .In the Army should be serving by people with strong personality ,with a good spirit, the person who could make any tough decisions without any sign of the doubts .I`m not saying that any woman could not have that particular traits or skills . There is lots of discussions about it , and each flip of the coin have their own cons and pros .But let me tell you a true story which had the place in my teacher`s life while I had been sent to him to be taught how could I improve my qualification [as a Prison Officer] . This teacher, whose name was Viktor ,had been very tough with some piece of roughness .He was teaching me and my group(about 15 people, both sex)how and when to correctly be using method of self-defence. As I mentioned , he was tough and when he hit,he hit! Obviously ,being the teacher and working with lots of guns ,being part of several subdivisions ,master of his craft ,he knew how much force he needs to append to make this hit. After the first practice with him we all were thinking that – enough is enough. But practice makes perfect, so we just kept trying and practicing with him . I forgot to mention , he was working with both sexes as equals and after some while we were asking him – why is he so brutal with us? And why he doesn`t make any difference between guys and girls .His answers were simple – he is so fierce because the inmates won`t be gentle with us and about difference in gender – he answered “You all are equal here, you all are having the same duties and no matter when the time comes , you all should be acting identically.” It is so weird but, at the same time, very profound. Later on he was telling us the story ,when he was a part of guarding team ,like bodyguard or so , he had been seen one woman, the boss of this team. And his face at that very moment was changed and became as a scary mask ,he was afraid of this single woman. Then he had been told that this woman wasn`t a woman anymore but she were(!) some kind of machine ,who were destroying anything on her way. From that very moment , I got this statement about the man and woman. The men should be hunters and providers, the women should be gentle ,being proud of being woman and look after their own posterity.

And now we`re approaching the next part of my point of view .

Being an adult

The year of the early 1970s,when the women got the rights to be equally with the men, was the turning point and it goes only in one direction – further and further .Before that time people were known what is wrong and what is right ,there were sure about the next day, about the future because there were sure that nothing is going to be different but since that time in 1970s..it had been started to snowballing people`s minds. They started to think about the restricted areas – they had been thinking about the freedom-freedom of actions ,freedom of education, freedom of rules(how ridiculously it wound not be sounded). From that moment , the difference between the men and women are started to become less and less.

Actually , I don`t mind to give the opportunities : to get better job, better education, better genes ,better quality of life to those ones, who could be contributing more and willing to get all these goodies ; but my mayor point is to show all of us that we should not kept the man and woman as something identical, because they are not. Now, here and there, we are facing the fading of men`s kind. Nowadays ,it seems to get normal when we are see mostly the women are behind the wheel/in charge . The men wistfully losing the ground ,gloomily looking back into the past which was gone. To be honest, it`s sadly to see that tendency of switching the roles, when the men, who supposed to be the strong one, receding back by giving his position to the women. Presently, all the traits which was giving to the women ,as shyness , softness, lots of talking and none of action, could be equate to the men as well, which is very ghastly fact.

To be honest ,I have my gripes with this [maybe because of my age and how I had taught, old – fashionably],but it feels that we will not be able to fix/change it in any point ,it is how the [present] world goes.

Let`s get to the point of being an adult , or ,if you want to call it differently , to be mature. Accordingly via internet , “(..) relatively advanced physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. ; grown-up (..) ” but what is it – being mature? Is it the state of mind or the measure of your wallet? Or maybe it contains your social skills – being reliable, with very good communication skills, being polite and thoughtful ? Many people think that all those skills means being mature ,however that is not a full list of that.

Being an adult, actually , is very enormously hard job : you should be on time where you are needed , you should be not-a-bad-guy who could ruin some other`s plans, you should think about your future and think carefully , you should .. do lots of things which can`t be named by anyone-because no one knows the full list of “you should”.

Talking about my own experience ,I was  somewhere in my 20 or so, I was living with my family and was awoken and the first thing what came into my mind – was the thought about living by my own . There were no evidence of bad relationship with my relatives or something like that – I was happy at that time – with my job, with my gaming addiction ,with how I spending my time and so on , but ,I guess ,it was the signal  about becoming as new persona ,enough is enough ,so to say.After that very moment , I started to use my internet for another purpose [not to play through only] – to find some place to live. After a few days of searching , I had found one particular 2-rooms flat and it was nice at the moment when I had a look around. But it was a very bad timing [it was September , as I can remember] and I did not know anything about the increasing the bills and stuff like that , because I haven`t experienced it yet .As you may imagine , this rent impacted crucially to my finance source. I must admit, that I had literally run out of money after I paid my bills and rent . I barely could afford something like meat and this kind of stuff, yeah , it sounds scary and horrible .. but , believe me , I had learned a lot from that. Later on , when my father wanted to visit me for “to see how my only son lives” ,  I cooked the chicken with potatoes plus some vegetables and when he came in and we got the dinner ,he was nearly crying because he saw the environment where I am live in. And ,with the pain in his voice,he said ” Why didn`t you call me?! Am I bad father?!” , I said that it`s just tough time for me and I NEED it right now , I need to start the life without family`s [ financial ]  support . Believe me or not, but he got my point and then the phrase followed “Then stay tight ,it will be very tough time for you and , if the things go south, don`t hesitate to call me and ask for any backup ,alright?!” . Later on , after 2-3 months , I went to live in another city ,on a bit countryside, where “the gross was greener”, the “air is fresher” and “people are better”. Ironically enough, the next flat what I rented was the 4th rooms flat and I rented it for about 20% of my month salary ,which was as manna from the heaven for me .

Summarizing all this experience ,I would say that the individuals needs to put all his effort into himself to become the mature person and , mostly ,he should do it by himself without any help from outside because this not only provides you with life-necessary experience , but also will contribute developing this person`s stamina and willpower, even without mentioning the physical power and psychical stability .Technically , you don`t need to have lots of money in your pocket or have the supportive family – all you need is keeping your mind sharp and get lots of experience in life , because that is all that matters.